Saturday, April 30, 2016

If these people regain, what chance do I have?

We all hear the stories. People lose huge amounts of weight, and then slowly gain it back. It's commonplace, actually. It happens to people who we perceive as having "the means" to keep it off, like Oprah, or those that had the chance to work with trainers on The Biggest Loser, and it's so tempting to think, if these people can't keep the weight off, what chance do I have?

I know lots of Biggest Loser contestants regained, but I didn't know Ali Vincent had. Ali was the first female Biggest Loser winner, and she looked amazing. Sadly, she's regained almost all of her weight as well. At first I watched this feeling hopeless, but then she really made me feel for her in the end with the positive comments she's getting from people. Yes, it's about trying to get healthy, not skinny, and most importantly learning to love yourself at any size. That's all true. I do believe that. But I don't want to use that as an excuse to let myself give up on my goals and regain, either. What's the point of all this? Were's that fine line? I don't know. I don't have any answers right now.

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  1. I think focus on maintaining and not losing more. It's sad for Ali but I'm not surprised. Weight is a constant battle... I'm busy fighting at the moment !!

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  2. I've read and watched those stories of people losing and regaining and I did that for most of my life. I never understood that a diet was more or less a recipe for failure. I read every diet book I could find and each one gave me hope. Each of the MANY diets that I tried worked as long as I stayed on them. None were sustainable. Who wants to live on a diet? Not me!

    If you ever read my blog, you know I had a light bulb moment before I reached my goal when my Weight Watcher leader responded to this question: What do I do when I reach my goal?

    The answer was: You just keep doing what you are doing right now. Honestly, something so simple should have occurred to me years before but it never did. So, 13 years later I'm still doing what I was doing then. I go up a couple of pounds and down a couple of pounds and kind of coast for a while. I get worried when I go up more than four pounds and begin to pay more attention to what I'm eating and how I'm exercising.

    Why do I keep on doing this? Because I'm 68 years old and healthy except for a form of anemia that cannot be fixed by food. Because I want to stay as healthy as I possibly can as I age. Because I don't want my knees to hurt or my back to hurt. It is worth it to me to be vigilant each day. At this point, I mostly run on auto pilot and I do have those occasional days when I eat more than I should. I find that if I stay "on program" at least 80% of the time, I continue to maintain well. Please excuse this long comment. I only want to encourage you to stop comparing yourself to people who've regained all the weight they've lost. That's not you. Have a fabulous weekend and keep up the good fight. :)

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  3. I echo what Lynda and Caron say here. You have EVERY chance of NOT re-gaining if you not introduce what your root causes were for the gain. We are not talking about a small weight rebound (5-20 pounds)Dr. Berkeley says that's normal after a large loss, my doc says 5-10 pounds post morbid obesity for some in menopause). I put you in that category. For sure, you are on my 10-20 people most likely to succeed in bloggy land- along with me, Lynda, Caron, Vickie, Ali, and all those who have chronic diseases where going back causes a lot of joint or physical pain.

    Grains, sugars, starchy "S" foods , high inflammatory foods- like corn oil, individual food sensitivities like dairy (for me). Lowering your diabetes risks (like me).

    You are 98% likely to be a weight maintainer 5,10,15 years from now if you have ID'ed your root causes of past morbid obesity and respect the 2% of the stuff you cannot control- prior morbid obesity comes with the number of fat cells working their endocrinology metabolism- that you may not be able to easily control.

    I can tell you that because I refuse to go back to the old foods that cause the ghrelin and leptin and insulin, I may not always be at my original goal weight but I'll be at my better health. That's the price.

    ALL the regainers failed at 1. at identifying their personal root causes 2. getting specific help for their genetics and habits to get the best possible out come for their individual biology.

    Not weak willed, not out of their control. Food and Wellness politics along with corn and grain subsidies set up a terrible perfect storm. Now with personal genetics available to us (23nMe, Ancestry, etc) and the careful wading through of root causes and careful n=1 we can be successful. Or even just n=1 without the genetics.

    Whatever it takes YOU have it. Return to the slippery slope of victim, poor me, it's out of my control, will get you massive weight gain. There's a lot, but not all we can do. I can promise you Ali went back to the foods that were her personal obesity triggers. Or into a cyclic poor me I might as well eat this mode. Because she (we) did not have someone telling us enough- more Dr. Berkleley's out there saying NOOOOO.

    You are there, right there in success mode, if you do not let you get you. Keep with the n=1. Don't negate the health benefits of older years.

    You are on my short list of success stories. Never forget that. When the Paleo/Primal/Low Carb/ Keto/Fasting/ NSNG groups grow, we won't be in the minority.

    Onward and do not give up.

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  4. Anna, I just hope you are enjoying your life. I know a blog is a distorted view...we only see, for the most part, what that blogger's focus of their blog is about. We don't get to see the other facets of their lives, so from the outside looking in, it can look like they are obsessing about things. But then again, as a long time blogger, I realized in myself that I WAS obsessing about my blog's theme; weight loss. It was becoming too dominant a force in my life. Other aspects of my life were suffering. I don't want that happening for you or anyone else. I hope you aren't so busy worrying about weight that you aren't enjoying the here and now moments in your life that have absolutely nothing to do with weight. :: hugs ::

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  5. The truth is that SOME people do gain it all back (and sometimes more) and SOME people don't. It seems to me that the ones who do gain it back, lose it and then, over time, go back to eating the way they did when they were overweight. And the ones who don't understand, as Karen says, that there is no going back to eating the way you used to if you want the weight to stay off. I lost my initial 40 pounds 5 years ago and it's stayed off because I changed the way I eat and I didn't ever decide, just this once, that I could eat like I did before. I still have 30-35 pounds to go, so I'm not done, but that's a different story. Like Karen said, you need to be vigilant each day ... that may not sound like something you want to sign up for, but the other choice is that you eat what you want and the weight comes back. I think Sean Anderson is a great resource (and example) for understanding the importance of determining what's right for YOU.

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  6. Thanks everyone for your support. It means a lot. We're about to catch the train to the airport so I haven't time to reply individually but know that I do appreciate you all. I will enjoy myself on this trip as life is short, isn't it? That much is proven time and again as we just lost another of my idols. I've got my Prince songs loaded

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  7. I have been reading the Biggest Loser stories going around Facebook today thinking the same thing. Why do I even try? But I feel like I have to keep trying or I will just lose myself, you know? But it has to be in a balanced way that is working for me. That is my journey, trying to figure it all out without overwhelming myself. :)

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  8. I'm hoping you got off safely and you enjoy a lovely break.

    It is all about lifestyle choices. Not just for one day, one week, one month, one year but each and every day ...

    Lifestyle is key ... I also echo what has been said by Lynda, Caron and Karen. You have EVERY chance of NOT re-gaining if you do not introduce what your root causes were for the gain.

    All the best Jan

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  9. The Biggest Loser is really not a healthy way to lose weight. They do it fast and they do it in a very, very controlled environment, I've read that the majority of people on the show gain a lot back. You just can't maintain the lifestyle from Biggest Loser to everyday life. I would not compare yourself to them. The only person you should compare yourself to is yourself. :-)

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  10. I wish that they had a follow up program after the show that reflected the relationships that these people had with their trainers! It just shows that it never "ends" for people with eating disorders and support is so important through the journey and in maintenance.

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  11. Hello Anna
    I'm just stopping by to say - hope all is well

    Take care

    All the best Jan

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  12. Me too -- just stopping by to say we miss you. :)

    Caron

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  13. Anna, I was just checking my old blog roll and thought I'd stop by and see what you are up too. I have been one of "those" that gained the weight back and keep struggling to lose again. I also have decided that struggling is not what I want to do forever and ever so I eat healthy, I get my blood check yearly and if the scale screams but the rest is good than for now it will have to be what it is.
    Blessings my friend.

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  14. Hey! Thinking of you Anna!!! I met a lot of people like us at Low Carb USA. Hope that you are busy and doing okay. Take care, Karen P

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  15. It seems like many of your other blogging friends, I too am thinking of you.

    Hope all is well ... do stop by and say hello sometime if you feel you'd like to.

    Take Care

    Allthe best Jan

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  16. It's now September, where is the year going?
    Do hope all is well ...

    All the best Jan

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  17. In my worst Bill Clinton voice...I share your pain. Dammit!!!

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  18. I was kind of hoping to see you blogging again in 2017. Hope all is well. :)

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  19. I just lost my last comment. I don't know if it was sent. I gained back a lot of my weight loss. Part of the problem with weight gain after great losses is metabolic adaptation. https://www.google.com/webhp?tab=ww&ei=lmTzU-CqCcnooATz94G4Bg&ved=0CBYQ1S4#q=metabolic+adaptation

    I read somewhere that one of the ways to avoid metabolic adaptation is to eat more calories while dieting. So this time around I am mixing it up with more carbs and fat and an exercise program that is sustainable and not just geared towards weight loss. Anyway, your last post was sort of despondent. Are you done with blogging and burned out on the whole experience or just taking an extended vacation from everything weight loss related? Either way no judgement from me. Take care.

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